Apr 8, 2010

From our cell phones to our hearts

Hi readers! Please welcome Hannah Katy as today's guest blogger in the series of wanting to hear more from you. Her blog, As Simple As That is awesome, and her writing always blows me away.

“Ok, so I definitely know a ‘Chris R’ and ‘Chris Z’ but who the heck is ‘Chris F’ or just plain ‘Chris’?” A friend and I are ineffectively holding back fits of laughter as we make our way down the list of contacts that make up our address books. Anyone who sees us at this very moment may think we are two preoccupied 20-somethings, too obsessed with our cellular devices to talk with one another. But the matter is actually quite the opposite. We are narrowing our phonebooks down to five people and then deleting the rest.

This all stemmed from an intriguing conversation that led into a question: What if we were forced to narrow our lives down to five people that we could not live without? The question becomes even more enticing when we actually sit down and make the cuts.

At first I thought the process might be painstaking. I figured I would deliberate for hours. I would put those anxious “Who Wants to be a Millionaire” contestants, who take eight years to choose between ‘C’ and ‘D,’ to shame. But when I put the question into practice I found my five people almost instantly. It was not a matter of ‘who could I try living without?’ but rather ‘who would make it impossible to even try?’ And though I urge you all to try this out yourself I am handing out a warning. The process of elimination is not what really matters in all of this rather the realization that may come afterwards.

If someone were to look at my life right now, placed next to my five choice people, they might laugh at my decision. I can hear the whispers now, “How silly is she? Maybe she should try a little harder to put those five people in her life.” Or “Oh, that’s a good joke. I don’t ever hear her talking about them.”
These imaginary gossipers are right. I hate to succumb to their banter but they see right through me.
We want to say that we have our priorities all neat and straight but when it comes down to it often the ones we know we need in our lives fall to the bottom of our priority list. Should we be so comfortable with their presence that we forget to show them how grateful we are? Should we always just assume that they will be there tomorrow, and the next day, and in two weeks from now?  And if we are comfortable in simply “knowing” that they are there, day after day, how different are they really from the random pack of guys with the same name “Chris” that sit restlessly in our address books? 
It is as my old creative writing teacher used to tell me, “Show me. Don’t tell me.”

I think we need to take our five people, along with all of the people after the five that make number limits seem irrelevant, and actually show them that they belong in our top rankings. Telephone calls. Thank-you notes. Cups of coffee.  Nights alone. Big or little; the size is not important. What matters is that we show them day after day. We need to show them that they do not belong on our to-do list or in our address book. We need show them so much that they would never need to be told. Told what, you make ask? Well, that is very simple, that they belong in our hearts. That they make up our hearts.

What do you think readers? Would you be able to choose just five people from your cell phone address books? Are there any people in your life you want to say thanks to - just for being themselves? Thanks for the great post Hannah Katy, and be sure to visit her at her blog As Simple As That!


Happy almost Friday!

5 comments:

Nicole said...

It would be so easy for me to get my phone down to 5 people. My mom, my boyfriend, my maternal grandparents, my long-time friend from pre-school. It would be a toss-up between my sister (who lives with my mom) and my long-distance friend for 5th. Sorry dad, you didn't make the cut. I regularly go through my phone and delete people. I could probably delete half the peopel I still have in there and would never notice.

Emily Jane said...

I was so happy to read this, Hannah is such a wonderful writer! I don't know if I'd have too much trouble narrowing it down to 5 - I can count on one hand the people that make up my heart. I used to be a little unnerved that I didn't have an extensive social network, but lately I've been more than okay with it. You're right though - sometimes telling them how much they mean isn't enough. You've inspired me today to start showing them :)

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Oy vey, I would have a really hard time limiting it to 5 people. Partially because I have a big family (4 siblings and they are all married), so that right there makes it tough. I will say there are only about 2-3 people that I talk on the phone to regularly. The other relationships are sustained by email, and then I have one relationship where we don't see each other, talk, or email, but we are still as close as ever and when we see each other, we just pick up where we left off! But - I know i shouldn't take that granted and should be better about sending cards.

This def has an important message, though. We shoudl all make sure the people in our life know we value them & appreciate them!

Lisa said...

Awww I'm so glad you had Hannah as one of your guest bloggers! She definitely offers wonderful thought-provoking insight into life. I love it! Of course I know instantly who my FIVE would be...but, I wouldn't want to narrow it down because there are too many others who I simply could not do without! Although, I definitely need to take more time to show them this on a daily basis, to show them how loved they are.

Gracie (Complicated Day) said...

No can do, I'm one of 9 kids! Love the concept though. Can I have, like, 15, given my particularly numerous family?

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