Apr 22, 2010

Gone

It's like I got punched in the stomach this morning and almost 12 hours later I'm trying to catch my breath.  A friend of mine from college was killed in a car accident yesterday.

I can't believe I just typed that.

It was so fast! One minute she was driving to work in the rain, and the next she was hydroplaning and heading into oncoming traffic. She was here one minute, and gone the next. I hate that she's gone. I hate that this happened, and I hate that I now have to talk about her in the past tense.


Just thinking about her makes me smile, because the first thing I think of is her laugh. It was one of those infectious-it-can-cheer-you-up-no-matter-how-bummed-you-are laughs, and she laughed loud and often.

We were friends through one of my college roommates, and for that I am forever grateful. We didn't stay in touch after college, but I thought of her from time to time, and at that same roommate's wedding last summer we re-connected, and have been chatty ever since. We would talk on facebook about how things were going, what we'd been up to, or to tell each other a funny story about something our husbands had done.

I keep thinking about all the things that can't happen now. She was married to a husband who loved her so much - what about him? What's he going to do? They don't get to have kids, or buy the house they were looking at, or grow old together.

Ohh, she would have been the most fun old lady ever! You know, the one in a group of women you pass who's still cracking jokes and making sure her friends have a good time. That would have been Rosa.

She was my age. A great teacher and an amazing friend, with a beautiful soul. I don't understand why this happened.
Rosa, on her wedding day

Your spirit will not be forgotten, dear friend. Thank you for touching so many lives, including mine. You are missed.

20 comments:

Jennifer said...

I'm so sorry Becky :( I recently lost my aunt and still can't understand why it happened. She was too young and had so much to give the world! I know you're going through the same "why her" questions. Hang in there girlie.

Smart Ass Sara said...

wow- I am so sorry to hear about this. :( Big, happy, positive thoughts going your way..

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I am so sorry. This has been on my mind since I read your bbm. I thought about it all through my run. It's so hard when things like this happen. It's just so sudden and so unfair. My heart goes out to you, her family, and her husband. How heartbreaking.

Sending hugs & prayers your way.

Tara said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. What an awful thing to happen. You and her family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

~*Katie*~ said...

So sorry to hear about your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family...

Charbelle said...

I'm so sorry to read this. I will certainly say a prayer for her family and friends. I had a friend from high school who lost her fiance suddenly in a car accident and it was devastating. She was driving and he wasn't wearing a seatbelt. These events make us stop and think and appreciate and cry and remember that life is so short and our time with our family and friends is precious! I'm so sorry!

Jess said...

So sorry honey. I am here for you, and if you need me to, this time I'll bring you Starbucks. :)

Kinsey Michaels said...

Aww Becky that is so hard. Death has always scared me, it's terrifying that someone you knew or loved could be taken away that quickly. I am so sorry and hope you will be okay getting through this tough time.

Taylor said...

I just sort of stumbled on your blog...I am so sorry to hear about your friend from college. It is so strange how people come in and out of our lives. Your friend seemed like a cheery person who brightened other's days. I hope that you are ok!

Amber from Girl with the Red Hair said...

I'm so sorry, dear. Sometimes there are no words. I don't understand the way things work when we leave people that are dear to us. It's just so unfair. Thinking of you. XO

lucythevaliant said...

I'm so sorry, honey. It's horrible to be hit with something like this. Hugs!!!

The Socialite said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this, that's so devastating. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and friends. Sending you lots of virtual hugs. It's crazy how unexpected and unreal life can get. Don't forget to always share her laugh and enthusiasm. :)

Nikolett said...

:( That is so sad ... I'm so sorry this had to happen to her. It's such a sadness when lives get taken away far too early. I really hope her husband will be able to heal. And I could only imagine how much strength it took to write this, I hope you're doing okay as well.

Darcie said...

I already emailed you, but I wanted to again say how sorry I am to hear this! I've been in this position and still don't know what to say to ease the pain. Maybe writing this and remembering her will help most of all!

Dani said...

Becky Jo, I am so sorry about your friend. My prayers are with you and the rest of her family and friends. Please let me know if you or her family need anything. I don't feel like there's anything I can say that can make any of this better, but I understand your pain.

<3

pinkflipflops said...

Becky, I am so sorry for your loss.

Rachel said...

Oh my. That is just so sad. I am praying for you and for the family and friends of your friend.

Emily Jane said...

I am so incredibly sorry, and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend's family. <3

Lisa said...

I haven't been here in a while, and I am sooo so sorry that I am just now seeing this. I am so sorry about your friend. There is nothing I can say but...I'm sorry, and I hope that your grief will ease soon. I know that loss is something that will feel better with time but will always be in your heart. My thoughts are with you. <3

Shaina said...

Oh Becky, I am so so sorry. I know I am a little behind in my reading, but I really wanted to express my sympathy. This is such a terrible thing to happen to anyone, let alone someone so young and vibrant and full of life. I am thinking of you!

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