Apr 19, 2010

If you like it than you shoulda put a ring on it

Ah, wedding rings. A symbol that you're spoken for. Something fun and occasionally shiny to wear. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to wear my wedding and engagement rings for the past several months.

When I first joined Weight Watchers I'd been married for a little over a year, and because of the weight I'd gained, my rings were really tight and I had to take them off.

Since then I've been losing weight and there have been times when I can wear my rings again. However, in the past six months or so (maybe a little longer, sometimes I'm bad at gauging time), my hands have consistently started to swell.

At first it was just at night and I started taking my rings off before I went to bed, and putting them on again in the morning. But my hands continued to swell, and eventually it seemed to be more just my left hand (specifically my ring finger), and it was painful when it was swollen.

I tried monitoring it to see if I could attribute it to different factors and eliminated causes like water retention, salt, etc. (The swelling continued to happen regardless of how little salt I ate, how much weight I've lost, and how hydrated I was).

It's finally gotten to the point where my left hand is almost constantly ache-y and it hurts to bend my fingers sometimes. A friend of mine has a comfort fit wedding band, and regardless of how swollen I am, I can always get her ring over my finger. The knuckle isn't the problem, it's the part of my finger past my knuckle that swells.

The only thing the mister and I have been able to guess is when we initally took off my wedding rings we had to soak my hand in water and we pulled really hard. Maybe we messed up a tendon or ligament and it didn't heal correctly and now there's some fluid build-up? However, even that doesn't make sense to me because I only started having a problem in the past several months. (I even had my rings re-sized but that didn't help either).

I have an appointment with my doctor this Friday, so we'll see what he says. I'm pretty sure it's going to be a waster of a co-pay and he's going to tell me to go see someone else, but as long as I can talk to someone (relatively soon) about what the problem is, I don't mind. I mean, who do I even see for this - an orthopedic surgeon? A hand specialist? (Do those even exist?)

The mister and I were talking though, and decided if this isn't something that can easily be fixed we may have to order a new wedding band for me. I found a simple, inexpensive, comfort fit band online, in case I need to get one. We're of course going to wait to see what the doctor says, but I was surprised at my emotions when Ben and I were having that conversation.

For whatever reason, the thought of not being able to wear my wedding band again, doesn't phase me too much. I just want something that'll fit and not have an empty finger when people glance at it after I say "my husband." However, the thought of having to eventually re-set my engagement ring (in a comfort fit band) brought me to tears. I told the mister I felt like a failure as a wife because I wouldn't be able to wear the exact ring he picked out for me. He assured me that wasn't the case, but I'm just hoping it won't come to that.

Any thoughts or suggestions out there? Have you ever had problems like this? Do you have an emotional connection to any of your jewelry?

Fingers crossed (no pun intended!) that the doctor can just drain my finger (even though that makes me shudder), and everything will go back to normal.

(Photo: Notes From a Lab Princess)


Annie Barkley said...

Maybe you are allergic to the ring type (white gold, etc.). You can develop allergies at any point in your life. Good luck!

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Oh that sucks! How bizarre!! I haven't ever heard of that happening so I have no helpful suggestions. What a bummer, though. :(

I totally understand the emotional attachment to your wedding ring & why you don't want to reset it. HOpefully you can figure something out so that you don't have to!

Anonymous said...

That's so strange! I've never heard of a problem like that. I hope the Dr has some good news.

Gracie said...

It sounds like carpal tunnel syndrome.

Kyla Roma said...

Oh that's so lame!! Can't you have it sized? If you haven't taken it into a jeweller, it would be worthwhile. Most settings can take being sized up without having to have the setting re-worked and they would be able to tell you on the spot.

I'm glad you're going to talk to your doctor, but I would definitely have someone look at the ring before you get too ahead of yourself, you might be pleasantly surprised =)

Becky said...

@ Kyla Roma - I've actually already had my rings sized up. The problem is, that size fit for awhile but then didn't again because of the swelling, so I'm not sure if sizing them again will just help temporarily.

@ Annie - oh my gosh, I hope I'm not allergic! Would it start so suddenly like that?!

@ Gracie - any suggestions of what I can do if it is carpal tunnel? And could it occur in just one finger on my hand?

Jess said...

I've seen it, and I don't think it's an alllergy...it looks like something inside. Keep us posted. :)

Chris and I have been married for 10 years this June, and for the first few years I was all about my bands. And then, I started not wearing yellow gold at all, and wanted new ones. So I upgraded. I'm shallow like that.

Amber from Girl with the Red Hair said...

Oh no I'm sorry to hear that lovely! ;( My fingers swell off when I exercise or when I'm sleeping so I ALWAYS take my rings off when doing those two things but other than that I wear them all day. So weird! I hope the doctor has something useful to say!

Anonymous said...

wedding rings are something i find i take for granted; first when i "lost" them, and now that the crutches cause my hands to swell all day long. i wish you an easy solution to your finger swelling problem. (also, carpal tunnel usually affects your pinky and ring finger, and can go thru your wrist all the way up to your elbow. a pregnancy perk you can look out for down the road. :p)

Alison Kinsey said...

awww Becky I'm sorry to hear about this :( I hope the doctors can figure out what's wrong.

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