Jun 24, 2010

To blog or not to blog?

Hi readers! I'm off celebrating a friend's wedding, so in the meantime please welcome someone I've known since second grade - debating the struggle I know I went through as a blogger, and I'm sure others have too.

Hello all! Megan here...you may remember hearing about me from these posts. When I told Becky I would love to do a guest post her response went something like this, "Sure! How about you do one in June?" (Keep in mind this conversation took place in January. I think? It's been so long I can't even remember!) I didn't realize she had quite so many people lined up! I felt a lot of pressure to make the wait worthwhile!

After much consideration I decided I'd like to write a post about not wanting to have a blog. When I signed up with Blogger so I would be able to post comments on Beck's blog, I discovered you HAD to create a blog! I thought to myself, "But I don't want to have a blog!" Thus the name of my "blog" was born. (According to Becky I am dumb and Blogger doesn't make you create a blog but that was how it seemed to me).

One of my main reasons for not wanting a blog is the concept of how much is too much? How much of yourself do you put out there? It almost feels like a glorified diary but instead of locking it up and hiding it under the bed, the more people who read it the better!

On the flip side of the coin though...how wonderful! The idea of being able to share how you feel or think about a topic. Talk about what you love and have people care! How validating and supportive!

But you are basically sharing your life with complete strangers. (At least they start out that way). In this society of over sharing, what purpose does it serve to let anyone and everyone know your business? Especially when it comes to children. I know that even on my Facebook profile, any pictures of my young cousins get the privacy settings jacked up to super because the thought of weirdos getting pictures of them unsettles me!

What if you are talented though? I most certainly am not, but what a fantastic way to share your creations with the world. Maybe for some people those creations are their children and they want to share their trials with others who might understand. Also, I know that Becky has made some wonderful new friends through her blog. I think it's great that it can be something that can enrich your life in more ways then one. What a way to reach out to family, friends, and like-minded people!

But what if you are having a really awful day? You just want to vent and get your frustration out and what if the object of said frustration reads the blog? How passive aggressive is that?

On the other hand...maybe there is a way to blog out your feelings and help to get a different perspective so that you can handle your frustrations in a better, more open-minded way.

I am using a lot of exclamation points!!!

At first I was of the mind set the world does not need another blog. After thinking about this post and what I wanted to say in it...I can't help but think about what I'd do with my own blog. It reminds me of when I got my first tattoo. I was convinced I would never get one. Then I went with my brother to get one and thought, "well I'll never get one but what would I want if I ever did?" Flash forward a few years to me at 18 getting a clover tattooed on my back hip. (I now have 3 tattoos). I think I will end up being the same about having a blog.

In fact...I am! I bit the bullet and started using my blog that I HAD to create! It's still a work in progress but I hope that you'll check it out if you'd like.

Have any of you who blog struggled with this? Anyone out there thinking about starting a blog? Definitely go check out Meg's blog - she might even have a giveaway soon to help her re-name her blog and I know you all would have great suggestions!

3 comments:

Diana Mieczan said...

That is so interesting...I know a few people who feel like you...I try to keep the balance between personal and public but I thinks its all up to the individual with what they feel comfy:)
I am off to check your blog now and say hello:)
Kisses

Ps: Kisses, Becky.Have fun!!!

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I ended up taking a little hiatus from blogging this spring when I was going through a really rough time. Blogging is usually cathartic for me, but during the phase, I wanted to take a step back and instead of relying on my blog for my outlet, talked more to friends and family and exchanged a whole lot of bbms - especially with my blogging bffs, like Becky!

Sometimes I wish my blog was anonymous so I could blog about some topics that I wouldn't necessarily wants friends/family reading. But in general, I am glad it's not anonymous. I do post pictures of my nephews, but my siblings & sisters-in-law actually love it when I do it because it's a good way for me to capture an event in their kids lives. Yes, strangers look at these pics, but it doesn't really bother me and doesn't seem to bother them. But I def would not post photos of them if it made them uncomfortable!!

Interesting post, though!

Jess said...

I'm not one to censor myself well (or at all, really). Anyone who's ever read my blog knows that too much is rarely enough.

I'm a writer (I've always been a writer), and blogging is a way for me to write everyday. Honing my craft, as it were. Use it or lose it, and blogging is my way to use it continuously.

And I agree about it being cathartic. It's so much of that for me. And in the four years I've been blogging? I've made friends. Actual people I've emailed, and then met. Women I feel priveleged to have in my life.

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