Jul 23, 2010

Coming down off the vacation high

The mister and I had an absolute blast with family this past week and I outdid myself with the number of pictures that were taken (if I do say so myself). Our niece is adorable beyond words and an hour into our trip home I already missed her little face! Despite our long trip there and having to buy a new car battery before coming home (ah, memories), it was exactly what we needed. Fun, relaxation, and a whole lot of love. I even got up before 7 AM one morning to go running!

There is nothing like a relaxing vacation. And nothing like reality slamming you in the face when you get home. I had a mini-meltdown last night. We'd been home for a day, we were starting to get into the "hey maybe we should go to the store and unpack some stuff" mode, and I just started looking at our bills to pay and kind of lost it. The mister's seasonal position has ended and he's been looking for a job again for a few weeks. We were very grateful for the job he had (and it lasted much longer than we originally expected), but I'm worried and scared that we'll have to go through this again.

So I cried. And I said how I felt like we were never going to get out of this pathetically tiny apartment that we've lived in for almost three years and be able to have another room, much less another level in a place we'd be living, or how this stupid economy really isn't turning around because Ben is so employable but people won't/can't hire him. How I wished we lived closer to extended family, especially my brother because it's hard not getting to see Madison very much, especially when she's so young.

And you know what my husband did? Let me cry. The ugly, hiccuping, can't breathe kind of cry, and when I was finished he told me two things: that we were not unpacking anything because we could still be on vacation if we chose to be, and that he knows we're going to get through this because we have a love that nothing can break. Then he packed me up to my in-laws house where we had dinner and talked and laughed and there was a dog who doesn't know how to do anything except cheer you up.

It was exactly what I needed. Sorry to be such a downer on a Friday but I think there was just so much going on while we were away that having everything slow down when we got back threw me off - because I had time to sit and think about things. And really, we had an incredible time! Madison has such a crush on the mister, she was flirting with him constantly and it was adorable.
See what I mean?

I'm determined to enjoy this weekend as the end of my vacation - what are you going to do? Have you ever come off a "vacation high" after traveling?

Thank you again to all my guest bloggers this week - you ladies are fabulous!

15 comments:

Diana Mieczan said...

Ohh I am sorry....Sometimes a good cry is good for us but your hubby is so lovely....and what he said is so true:) I hope everything will be good soon and I am glad that you will try to enjoy your weekend:)

Kisses,sweetie and have a lovely Friday...Love is really all we need:)
Everything will be fine:)

Muah

Ps: I hope you had a chance to enter my GIVEAYAW!!!!

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I'm sorry Becky. :( It is alot to deal with. But I am glad that you have such an amazing husband. Together, you guys will get through this. I know it's very scary and upsetting, though - and somemtimes you just need to give yourself over to the emotions of a situation and have a cry. I am glad that Ben recognized that you needed to cry and let you have that moment as I do really think it helps.

Hang in there chickadee! You two will get to the other side of all of this stress - and hopefully in the near future.

HC said...

Glad you had a great vacation! Nothing like a little one to cheer you up and help you forget all your worries!

I know what you mean about reality hitting hard...it sucks! I had a big wake up call myself the other day when looking through bills, even with two having jobs it gets tough. Hang in there, no matter what, you have a great guy to get through it all with.

Charbelle said...

When you've had such a wonderful wonderful time and then suddenly it draws to an end, it's hard. That much harder when things are yet again uncertain and you don't know what's going to happen.
His answer to you about love, oh my word that is so sweet and so so true!!

Brittany said...

Oh, Becky - that sounds really tough. You seem to have such a wonderful gift for really enjoying life, and I hope you have a wonderful weekend/rest of your vacation. I'm glad it's been wonderful so far! Madison is adorable.

Emily Jane said...

Awww, I'm so sorry, this really sucks. I definitely hear you on coming down from the vacation high though - I usually get it most when I come back from visiting England and I remember what it was like to live there.

But look how adorable Madison is! And take comfort in your wonderful husband and know that you'll get through this together <3

Amber (Girl with the red hair) said...

Sometimes you just NEED a good cry!

Everything will work out for you and Ben, promise! XO

Ally said...

Awww, that sounds rough. I came off a vacation high a few weeks ago, so I understand those feelings. I'm glad you had a great time though, and that your mister can make you feel better even after being in the depths of an ugly cry.

Have a lovely weekend!

pinkflipflops said...

I know how you feel. I have been graduated for 2.5 years and still haven't gotten a perm. full time job. It is soooo aggravating!

Mandy said...

I'm so sorry you're having these feelings, Friend. I'm currently battling some of my own realities and its scary, frustrating, and takes one hell of an emotional toll. Cry and feel what you need to feel (or call me!). I'm glad that Ben let you get those feelings out. It is a scary time right now for many of us, you're not alone.

I'm so glad that you had this trip to visit your fmaily. Your neice is beyond adorable and I can't tell you how fantastic it was to see you along the way. Enjoy every last second of this vacation.

Oh and the peanut butter pie recipe will be on its way to you this weekend!

Kyla Roma said...

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry, this is all hard stuff to navigate. Sometimes crying it out & taking comfort in your family is really the only way to get through these times. I'm definitely in that uncertain place right now too, and a lot of the time it takes a lot out of me. Please know that if you ever need to talk I'm right here <3

Jess said...

*hugs*
I've soooo been there. Its not a fun place to be. My empathies. And hugs.

And you have a good one. Letting you slobber all over him like that. Mine lets me too...it's an important rite of coping.

Stephany said...

It's great that you have such a strong support system in your husband & he sensed your need to cry and get it all out. That's so important and sometimes, like Amber said, you need a good cry! We've all been there. It does help.

Big hugs to you!

S.I.F. said...

OK, that picture just made my ovaries ache! She is PERFECT!

I'm glad you had so much fun lady, and I'm glad you're back!!

Candace said...

*hugs*

The ladies are right. Sometimes you do just need a good cry. I have felt that before when we have vacationed with our children and had to leave them. Praying better days for you ahead.

Candace

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