Mar 15, 2011

A band of difference

Most of you know it's been awhile since I've been able to wear my wedding rings. I've tried everything to get my wedding band and engagement ring back on my finger - from losing weight, to cortisone shots, to just putting them on and gritting my teeth through the pain, but nothing has worked.

While my finger is no longer constantly in pain, I finally faced the fact that I would have to get a new wedding band. A friend of mine has a comfort fit wedding band, and had me put it on once to see how it felt. Amazing. No pinching, no feeling tight on my finger, it didn't hurt at all. (Every time I'd see her I'd say "could I wear your wedding band for a little bit?" and she was patient enough to let me each time I asked). I figured if I had to get a new wedding band I'd get a comfort fit one. However, I was still determined to get back into my wedding band.

The mister and I have been talking about it for months, and I was really getting antsy. At this point I had spent more time married not wearing a ring than I had being married with one on. We took my rings to a jeweler and asked them their opinion. They confirmed what we thought - they could size up my wedding band, but it might damage the diamonds in it and it still wouldn't fit the way I needed it to, but my engagement ring has a lot more give, so re-sizing it shouldn't be a problem. (These have both already been sized up once - I'm telling you, I exhausted all of my options!)

While at the store I figured I should try on a comfort fit band. I had been scouring websites and calling around to places in the area to get an idea of pricing, but with the exception of my friend's ring, I hadn't really tried any on. I put on a couple of regular wedding bands (i.e. flat inside as opposed to curved like the comfort fit), and they hurt - they fit the way my band did, and I didn't want to leave them on for more than about thirty seconds. Then I tried on a comfort fit band and I almost cried because I wasn't in pain!

The mister and I both knew this was the way to go, but I told the ladies we needed to take a minute to talk about it. As soon as we walked away Ben said, "I think we should get it, but it's up to you." I was torn. I knew this was what I needed if I wanted to consistently wear a ring on my finger, but I didn't want to spend money (hello, trying to budget and get things accomplished here!) when I already had a wedding band, even though I knew I couldn't realistically wear it anymore.

This is where my husband's awesomeness shines through. Once again, he looked at me and said, "Babe. It isn't like we're just upgrading you to a three-carat ring. This is something you've gone without for two and a half years. If that rings fits, then let's get it."

So we did. And oh my gosh you guys. It feels amazing, it doesn't hurt, and I'm wearing a wedding band again. I've been grinning every time I see it on my hand, when I mention the words "my husband" to people and they slide their eyes to my finger there's now something there, and even though I know it doesn't make me anymore married than before, it makes me so emotional, and extremely happy.
(This would be my trying not to cry face).

It's like coming home.

Have you ever had to deal with something like this? Were you more attached to a piece of jewelry (or possession) than you expected?


Megan said...

I'm so glad you are able to wear a wedding band again! I would definitely feel lost without mine. (And you can always wear your other band on a necklace or something!)

Mandy said...

So happy that you have a band now that you love and doesn't hurt. I adored Ben before but him telling you to go ahead and get the ring, makes me adore him even more.

I am completely attached to my charm bracelet. I've had it since I was 14 or 15. I'm also really attached to a few rings that have special meaning to me.

Katie @ Loves of Life said...

YAY WHAT A GOOD FEELING!! My husband wears a comfort fit band and loves it!

HC said...

Thats awesome! I still cant fit in mine, and if I'm completely honest, it's not the baby weight thats keeping it off, it was uncomfortable even before that. I might have to pick your brain next time I see you! I'm so glad you found one that fits!!!

Amber said...

I checked out the comfort fit bands when I took my ring in to be resized and TOTALLY know what you mean by the way they fit different!

I'm so so so glad that you got one! Yay Ben :)

Carly Anne said...

I would be pretty devastated if I couldn't wear my wedding rings. Your reaction makes complete sense. In fact, I worry just reading this post, as I have an engagement ring that can't really be sized up if I ever need it...


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The Many Thoughts of a Reader said...

i suck with jewelry wearing. ive lost my ring for a couple months at a time. i dont always remember to wear it. it's just not that important to me. i mean i love it and think it's beautiful but im not really one to be attached to jewelry. besides my ring the only other 'good' jewelry i own are the diamond earrings hubby got me last year.

Darcie said...

So glad you are able to wear your wedding again. I know that has to make you super happy.

If I remember correctly, wasn't the first dance at your wedding something about "coming home"? It's rather appropriate that your new band should make you feel that way too. :)

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I love that I knew all about this because we talked on Sunday. :) That v-chat made my weekend, seriously!

I can't really think of any jewelry that I've had an attachment to! The only thing I can think of is this watch that I had as a child - I remember it breaking and I was like heart broken. It wasn't something you could fix either. Yes, I was the dorky 8 year old who wore a watch, cried when it broke, and then felt 'lost' until my mom bought me a new one!

Deidre said...

I am so glad that you got something fits and feels wonderful! That's great!

I'm an expat who lives in Australia...and I have been known to cry because I can't find the following things: Corn tortillas, black beans, and dried cranberries.

I didn't know I was so attached to them until I'd end up crying when I couldn't get them!

Lucy The Valiant said...

Yay that you got your ring! He's seriously a sweetie, isn't he?

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