Mar 23, 2011

Date a girl who reads

I'm still feeling a little sad, so last night I cuddled with the mister, ate some pancakes, and let myself get lost in blogs. The written word has always given me comfort, and when I stumbled across Mishka's blog I was smitten at first read.

I was reading her posts and found myself saying, "me too," and laughing a loud at her jokes. Then I found this. A quote by Rosemary Urquico that was so powerful it took my breath away. It's so stunning I simply had to re-post it.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You'll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She's the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That's the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She's the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she's kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author's making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce's Ulysses she's just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or if she would like to be Alice.

It's easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she's going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She'll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she's sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn't burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you're better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.
- Rosemary Urquico                                      

Are you a girl who reads?

(Photo: mine)


Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Aw, that is just lovely. Now if only I could find a guy who would love me, a girl who reads. ;)

I am definitely a girl who reads, as you well know! I sadly have barely read lately, though. Studying just takes up all my free time, I will be lucky if I finish 2 books this month, which is better than nothing but is still a very slow reading month for me!

Holly said...

I love this! I'm definitely a girl who reads. I didn't introduce my son to The Cat in the Hat and Aslan in the same day, but I did in the same week :) He met Anne of Green Gables that week too ...

The Many Thoughts of a Reader said...

I love that.

Amber said...

Love, love, love this.

Especially this line:

"Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series."


Erin said...

LOVE THIS!!! Might just have to steal it :) And my library card proudly has my 11-year-old signature on the back - they let me keep it even though I got married and my name changed :)

Nicole said...


Nora said...

I love this! I'm definitely a girl who reads although lately not as much as I'd like... and has a half read Murakami book sitting on her shelf. Really awesome. thank you so much for sharing!

Stephany said...

This is so perfect and SO ME. :) It brightened my day.

Stevie said...

I love Michelle's blog, it's one of my favorites :-)

I am definitely a girl who reads. I only hope I can pass along my love of reading to my children, and everyone around me!

Ashlee said...

I love this! I am also a girl who reads, and hope to share the joy of reading with my children someday!

Lucy The Valiant said...

Girls who read are the best! Ariel is already well on her way - you should see how excited she gets when we go to bookstores! I've been reading chapter books to her literally since the first week she was born.

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