Mar 24, 2011

The kind of mom I want to be

The other night I picked up my mom from the metro and when I dropped her off, she made me laugh. She pulled open her big commuting backpack, removed her purse (which was stuffed in sideways), and unzipped it, peering inside. I knew she was tired so at this point I was going to offer to help her find her keys. But she reached in with a focused expression, pulled out two small pieces of candy, and put them in my hand saying, "here you go - these are for picking me up."

I said "thanks Mom," and started laughing. I don't know if I can convey exactly why it made me laugh, but it's just so her. She commuted home, everything was jostled around, yet she was so focused on making sure I got candy (and knew exactly where it was!) before she even started looking for her keys. Then she said, "don't pull away until my car is on, okay?" I scoffed and said, "Mom, please. You raised me. I'm not going to drive away until your car is moving." She smiled and said, "okay, bye!" (Ironically, these were the words she whispered to me when we got to end of the aisle at my wedding. It made me laugh then too).

As I was driving home, I started thinking about how lucky I am to have so many extraordinary women in my life, especially my mom and my mother-in-law.

My mom amazes me. She can find humor in any situation, she's shown me how to be independent but not isolating, and she always tells me what I need to hear, even if I don't want to hear it.

Then I started thinking about my mother-in-law, who is one of the sweetest women I know. She's an encourager - she'll support you in your decisions, even if she can see you're going to end up where you started. She will reassure you when you're vulnerable (even if that's just making rolls), and her thoughtfulness knows no bounds. It took me awhile to realize it takes an incredible amount of strength to be that strong for other people.

As I parked my car that evening I had two thoughts.

1) I'm thankful for these women in my life.

2) When the mister and I have children - they are the kind of mom I want to be.

Do you have (or want) kids? Who are the inspiring women in your life?

10 comments:

Megan said...

I definitely want children someday.

My Granny was the most inspiring woman I know. She passed away in 2004, but she still inspires me on a daily basis. She was such a strong woman, and she was my best friend. In every decision I make, I think of what her opinion would be on the matter.

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

What a lovely tribute to your mom and MIL. They both sound like amazing women! I am very fortunate and have an amazing mom! She's so smart and she's really independent and strong. And she fiercely loves her kids and grandkids.

Another woman I look up to is my aunt Betty. She is going through cancer treatments yet again (I've lost count of the # of times it's come back), but she has not lost her positive attitude. If anyone has a reason to feel sorry for themselves, it's her - but she NEVER does. She chooses positivity instead which I think is extremely admirable.

I would love to have children some day. We will see if God has that in His plan for me. If kids aren't in the plan, then i will just spoil my nephews like they are my own children. :)

jen said...

I have a 15 year old step son and i just make it a point to be me. When his dad first asked me to meet him he said "just be jen..."

Nora said...

This is such a sweet post; I love it.
My mom is an amazing force in my life; always has been, always will be. I'm so thankful for her :)
I guess you could say I'm a bonus mom (thank you Mandy for coining that phrase) and a big part of what I want to do? Encourage the girls. Make sure they are happy. Teach them fun, new things. Be a positive role model and someone they can turn to if they ever need it. Here's hoping...

Katie~Loves Of Life said...

My mom is amazing, dont get me wrong--but as just-new'ish mom, I always aspired to be kind of like my one sister-in-law. Shes so amazing with my nieces, and is just a cool chick.

Amber (Girl with the red hair) said...

Awww Becky I love this post so much. It is SO well-written and gave me goosebumps!

Allison Blass said...

I have a really awesome Mom and MIL. They aren't perfect, but they're awesome. They've taught me a lot about how I want to be as a mother.

Anonymous said...

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Annie said...

We did luck out with these Bookser ladies. Our moms rock, and I never forget it.

Your mom telling you to wait until the car is on is EXACTLY what I do whenever I drop someone off or someone drops me off. Must be from "Wally Bookser's School of Safety."

xxoo

EmbellishedbyEmily said...

Your mom is cool! And lucky me, I get to work with her EVERYDAY!! Be jeal.

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