May 4, 2011

A mini-rant

I'm exploding with ideas for the blog. But at the same time - I'm really evaluating what I post about, why I blog, and where I want the blog to go. I might be quiet for a little while - while I prioritize what I want to be doing, but I hope to be back in full swing soon.

I'm also frustrated beyond belief with people who keep telling me things I should be doing. You should be thinking about kids. You should buy instead of rent when you move. You should change this or that about your life. Why are you doing it this way - you should do this instead.

You should shut the hell up.

Self-examination can be a useful, if sometimes painful process and in a lot of ways right now I feel like I'm in limbo. There are things I can't control and I accept that. There are things I can control which I'm going to take care of now - this includes no longer sugar coating things to spare people's feelings.

In high school I was very in your face about any and everything. I like that I've calmed down as I've gotten older (such a good thing), but I think I need to incorporate a little less bullshit into my attitude. Lately I've kept my mouth shut because I think it would be easier for someone to not hear the truth, or because they might be upset about it. That's not me. I don't have to be in your face, but I'm tired of acting like things are okay when they so clearly are not.

Don't want my opinion? Don't ask.

14 comments:

Katie said...

"You should shut the hell up"--keep that one in your backpocket for when you have kids, you will need it....not for your kids, for the people who try to tell you how to raise them! And, I'm not telling you you should be having kids or thinking about kids so please don't yell at me....:)

Dani said...

I thought the "old" Becky was pretty great, and so did everyone else who mattered. There was nothing wrong with your attitude then. Who doesn't value a straight shooter in their inner circle?

I think at some point - especially in the business we are in, people mistake kindness for professionalism. I don't think they are remotely similar. Plus people need to be told to shut the hell up every now and again. That's how you teach boundaries. ;)

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Ha, I used to be more of a firecracker myself that would speak up and say how she feels. Then for various reasons, I sort of lost my voice and my opinion on things became an inner monologue.

Here's to speaking up! :)

Oh and the thing I am sick of people telling me to do is to let my condo go into foreclosure. Um, hello, i can afford to make the payments. There is NO reason to let it go into foreclosure.

/end rant.

Mandy said...

"You should shut the hell up." Haha, this is why I love you.

Seriously though, don't let other people's opinions get in the way of your own. Its your life, live it, and do it in your own fabulous way.

Amber (Girl with the red hair) said...

I am sooo the same as you and Lisa. I used to be so snappy/in-your-face but have definitely become more "easygoing" in my old age ;) I just hate conflict so that's why I tend to keep my mouth shut even when I disagree with something.

Don't listen to other people's opinions. Everybody ALWAYS has an opinion on something. That's the beauty of life I suppose!

Kyria said...

I agree with Amber. EVERYONE has an opinion. Half of them are wrong. So, just go with your gut. If that means blogging, not blogging, buying, renting or telling people to shut the hell up, I think it's all good.

Brittany said...

So many comments I don't know where to start...

:)

Nora said...

Ah, people. Especially stupid people. I *hate* people telling me what to do or think or consider. How about they live their life and we live ours? It's not like we tell them what they should/would/could do with X,Y, and Z, right?

Side note: can't wait to see/hear/read about your blog evolution!

Annie said...

I am struggling with keeping quiet @ work a lot lately. My environment is VERY "corporate" and there tends to be a lot of bs/big brother watching. I hold my tongue for fear of consequences but find myself bitching to Louie a lot. *sigh*

Kyla Roma said...

I'm a big fan of being honest and firm but coming from a caring place. I'm so glad you're going to be standing your ground more! :)

Can't wait to see where your blog goes- I'm so excited for you!

EmbellishedbyEmily said...

Something I've learned in time (and after years and years of dealing with my parents' attitude and opinions about my relationship and how I live my life) is that the more happy and satisfied I am with what I'm doing, the less those incoming comments have an affect on me. AND the MORE those comments seem to STOP altogether!

You are living your life how you want. Do it with a big "shut-the-hell-up" smile on your face, and I promise they will go away ;)

Although for me it took a shut-the-hell-up smile in the form of a very carefully-worded telephone conversation. But only after Mom sent me a copy of the lovely read, "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives." It exists. Go look it up. And feel free to call my mom and bitch at her, too.

xxoxo

Brittney said...

Good for you. I totally get like that and then am like ENOUGH YOU WANKERS, lol. <3 I'm also totally doing this lame "self discovery" crap right now with a few books and stuff. Nerd, nerd, nerd. I wish us the best of luck!

Kelly (She Wears a Red Sox Cap) said...

Hmm it's funny about you, Amber and Lisa- I actually use to stand up for myself LESS I think haha, and now I'm realizing I sometimes will be walked over if I don't stand up for myself. It's still a lot of effort for me to confront people because I kind of hate it. I like getting along with everyone and usually do but sometimes- ugh people just annoy me!

Vanessa said...

"You should shut the hell up."

YES! I can't believe how many people are trying to make me second-guess the decisions I've made lately, from deciding to go back to school to selling my car so I can afford other things. Everyone and their dog seems to think I'm living my life the wrong way.

Geez.

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