Apr 23, 2012

Musings


The rain is dripping outside my windows, and the sound is surprisingly comforting. I just read this post by Erin about blogging, body insecurities, and PCOS and I agreed so much with what she was saying I was nodding and fighting back tears the whole time.

I went to a baby shower for a dear friend Saturday and loved every minute of it - the food was fabulous, the ladies were fun, and we all laughed a lot. I planted myself on the floor in front of the mother-to-be and took pictures the whole time she was opening gifts. I ooh'ed and ahh'ed over the adorableness of the presents (so! tiny!), and my smile grew bigger with each one because I just can't wait to meet her little girl and if I'm this excited I can't even imagine how she's feeling! Watching someone go through the journey of bringing a life into this world is a pretty incredible thing.

Someone warned me when I was first diagnosed with PCOS that it could be an emotional roller coaster. (Well that was a bit of an understatement). But today was finally my first "high" of that ride. I'm excited for my friend who is expecting, but more than that, I'm happy I can be excited. I'm not resentful or angry, and I hope it always stays that way.

I've been thinking a lot about the quote, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Truer words have never been spoken.

Anytime I've been feeling even a little bit jealous I say those words to myself and then mentally list all the wonderful things I have in my life - and there are a lot. It's about appreciating what I have. And this weekend? I didn't have to chant that mantra once - I was too busy admiring the glow of this almost-momma.

Have you ever heard that quote? Do you think comparison steals joy? How was your weekend?

8 comments:

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Aw, I am glad you had such a great weekend. And I am not surprised that you are so happy for your friend - that's just the kind of person and friend you are.

I had not heard that quote, but it's awesome. I try not to compare my life to others because it honestly doesn't resemble the lives of any of my friends. I don't have any single friends, so I don't compare myself to others because it makes me focus on my single status too much. I used to focus on that aspect, but then one of my (happily) married friends told me that as much as I envy their relationships with their husbands, they envy my ability to go to Paris by myself... It was a good reminder that there the grass is not always easier and that we have to focus on the things in our life that make us happy/lucky. :)

Lucy The Valiant said...

That is a beautiful quote- and you are a beautiful person! Hugs, friend!

AshleyD said...

It sounds like you had a good weekend. Yay!

I definitely believe that quote is true. I wrote a similar post on Your Super Awesome Life and used the quote "What others think of me is none of my business." It's coming from a different angle, but I think they're both about comparing yourself to others and how that can take away our own happiness. It's hard sometimes and I'm so glad you were able to escape from it this weekend. :)

Amber (Girl with the red hair) said...

That is a wonderful quote and so, so true. I'm glad you were able to fully enjoy yourself at the baby shower!

Jenny Taylor said...

I do the same thing when I start to feel that twinge of jealousy: I start thinking about everything I have and how thankful I am. Still, though, it can be hard not letting the comparison take over.

I know a girl who is just so boastful about everything it drives me crazy! (And she may not be all that bad, but my jealousy thinks so!) I often joke that she's going to end up taking my baby names, too, because it seems like everything I want, she already has. And she's much younger than I am. But like Lisa said up there, the grass isn't always greener.

I'm glad you had a nice weekend! :)

Suburban Sweetheart said...

I love your unending optimism, Becky, even when you don't feel like being optimistic. Sometimes, when I'm envious of someone or something, I try to think of things in my life that others might be envious of. I don't love thinking that other people might be having a case of the jealousies, but I DO like the reminder that there are so many good things in my life worth having.

<3

Emily said...

Becky, i just found your blog today via your guest post on Jenny's blog. your words on her blog today were EXACTLY what i needed to read today so i immedietly started following your blog because i loved your writing and felt an immediate connection to you. now, sitting here tonight, reading through your previous posts to get to know you a little bit better, i am feeling even MORE connected to you. i too, was diagnosed with PCOS and for many months felt incredibly alone and ashamed. hubby and i were trying desperately to get pregnant and it was the darkest time in my entire life. i too, am an incredibly positive person, but this darkness was a silent killer inside of me that i just couldn't handle. people's comments, advice and good intentions always made me cry behind closed doors. i say all this just let you know that i am praying for you. i know we just "met", but if you'd ever like to talk, please feel free to contact me. after a few years of fertility treatment, my hubby and i decided to adopt. that decision changed our lives in ways i'll never be able to explain! the miracle that happened when our baby girl was placed into our arms that day will be something i'll remember until the day i die. i don't know what your future holds for you and ben, but i have learned that PCOS doesn't get to define me...and it didn't get to determine whether or not i became a mommy! i wish all the very best for you and ben. and i commit to praying for you daily. God bless!

Emily said...

oops! i forgot to leave my e-mail address in case you want to talk :)
emmendenhall@hotmail.com

(our blog is set to private, but i'd love to send you an invite if you'd like to follow me too!) :)

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