Apr 12, 2013

Meet Me in St. Louie

It started when we visited for a wedding, while celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary.

At one point during that trip Ben asked, "would you ever consider moving out here?" I think I surprised us both when I said yes. (Followed quickly by "but I wouldn't let our kids call it pop. It's soda.")

We've been mulling the idea around - not like, we're-going-to-move-this-instant, but more of a would-we-really-do-this-and-if-so...how kind of way.

Ben and I fell in love with St. Louis in October, but decided we needed to go back - in a different season, to not stay in a fancy hotel, and to see more of the city and surrounding areas. A week ago we headed to St. Louis to spend a long weekend with Nora and Knight (and their pup Jack), and while we were definitely on vacation, we also wanted to know if we could envision ourselves creating a life there.

Long term? We think we could, but there would be a lot of moving parts and if we did decide to move it wouldn't be for a couple more years.

I thought that would be hard for me to admit - I'm an East Coaster through and through. Without realizing it I fall into all the cliches: I wear a lot of black, I talk fast, I get impatient when driving (although that's more the D.C. area in general), I don't make eye contact with strangers on the street, etc.

I love visiting other places in the country but  I'm always happy to come home. But I was nothing but sad to see this trip end.
Would it be hard to eventually leave our friends and family and amazing support we've created in this area? Of course. But there's a pull to St. Louis I've never felt for any other city.

So we'll see. Nothing is being planned right now, but wow did we have an amazing time. It was the perfect mix of doing things and down time. We saw the Arch, ate delicious chicken at Hodak's, visited the coolest handmade soap store ever and even took a tour of it to learn about the history of soap - hilarious and interesting! We adored a pop-up library during walks with Jack, ate custard at a St. Louis landmark, visited the zoo, the Hill, drank coffee and pina coladas (not at the same time), soaked up time with Nora and Knight, indulged in lots of Jack cuddles, and a whole host of others things that would take a lot of time to write. So I could tell you...or I could just show you.

A little video disclaimer: please excuse the craziness of my bangs. (They have since been trimmed).

Meet Me in St Louie from Becky on Vimeo.

(Song: What I Wouldn't Do by A Fine Frenzy)

Have you ever visited a place you've seriously considered moving to? Have you felt that "pull" from a city like I have?

(Big shout out to Ben for helping me with this video and to Nora and Knight for being such fabulous hosts!)

13 comments:

Nora said...

LOVE LOVE LOVE all of this and not just because you came to visit. I'm so thrilled to have such amazing friends thanks to blogging, and ones that even though I see them few and far between the friendship itself feels like home. You and Ben are part of that and I'm so thankful! Until next time in St. Louie or DC... xoxox

Mandy said...

Aww, I really love this video. It always makes me happy when my friends get to see each other! (I wish I was there!) Looks like you all had an amazing time and I agree with Nora -- my friendships that I made through blogging, feel like home, where ever we are when we meet up.

As far as cities that captured my heart, when I moved to DC to do my internship, I left a part of my heart there. I could move to DC tomorrow and be perfectly content. For me, its always felt like my second home. I'm just glad that you all and Karen/Kevin are there so I can visit often!

Amber said...

Aw I'm SO glad you had such a great weekend! Even if you don't move there anytime soon it can always be a place to visit :)

The Many Thoughts of a Reader said...

hahaha. i wear a lot of black, talk fast and get impatient while driving too. and you can find me in the mitten. ;)

Caiti said...

Looks like you had a great time! I spent 4 years in mid-Missouri for undergrad, but my time in STL was always pretty brief. Tons of old friends and classmates love it and call it home though!

I'm still on the lookout for where's home to me; I know it's not Chicago for the long-term. I've always been pulled towards the Northwest in general. We'd set our sights on Portland, and visited there a few years ago. The trip was good and it could potentially feel like home, but there wasn't a gut "this is it!" feeling. But we might get a chance to do a trial run because Mark's company is talking about sending him to Portland for a few months to work, which is awesome. Seattle and Boulder are two other cities on our list of Maybe Cities. I do tend to feel a sense of home whenever I visit friends-- I love that feeling :)

Dani said...

DC is that city for me, no matter where in the world I go. I felt a connection to Abu Dhabi, but I couldn't live there. I love Dover too, but I know I'll tire of it in a couple of years. I can completely understand your affection for St Louis though, with all of the time I've spent there. It's a lovely city.

If you want to check out Delaware, just say the word. We have a ton of room in the new house and it's a good weekend trip. :)

Amber @ A Little Pink in the Cornfields said...

What a great video! Sadly, I have only decent though St. Louis (twice!). I am sure someday I will make a proper visit!

I love my perfect mid sized city, Des Moines! I truly think it's the best kept secret in the Midwest. ;)

Kelly (She Wears a Red Sox Cap) said...

I'm so glad you had fun in St. Louis. I've actually visited several places I could picture myself moving. But ultimately I don't think I'll ever leave my family and friends- since the vast majority of them are in Boston. That is where I will most likely stay :)

Stephany said...

Okay, this post makes me want to visit St. Louis badly! :) I loved following your hashtag for the weekend. Looks like you had tons of fun!

I think one place I could see myself moving to is Georgia. I fall in love with that state every single time I visit and I just love the slower pace of life there. It's nice. :)

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I am glad you had such a great time in St. Louis! Nora is such a great host!

There have been a couple of places that I have visited and felt I could call home, but I feel the strongest pull to Chicago. I like that it's a midwest city, it's very walkable and public transportation friendly, it has a great running culture, and I have family and friends close by.

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

As I think you know, I was born in St. Louis and lived there until middle school, when my family moved to Boston. I have always said (and still maintain to this day) that St. Louis is a GREAT place to raise a family. Mid-sized cities, like St. Louis, often offer wonderful cultural things (museums, theater, sports) without the headaches that come with big cities (awful traffic, people congestion on the streets, etc.). If the opportunity to raise Gavin in St. Louis presented itself, I'd leave Chicago in a heartbeat to return there. And that's saying a lot, because I pretty much love Chicago and have no plans to leave.

Kate said...

I've never been to St. Louis but have heard great things. I would LOVE to visit sometime - especially if you move there! :)

Shannan said...

Randomly going through your old posts and had to comment on this one because I live about 45 mins from St. Louis! It's a nice city :) Oh, and everyone calls it soda here (and in STL). It's when you go further North you tend to hear it called "pop".

I have always felt a pull to Seattle and have loved every single visit I have had there. I say go for the move if you can! :)

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