May 2, 2013

Single Infertile Female

Single Infertile Female by Leah Campbell

My rating: 4 stars

From the back cover: First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage. That's how the story goes, right? We all grow up hearing the same fairy tales, and imagining the same futures. But what happens when the future you have always pictures for yourself, is ripped away before you ever even get the chance to pursue it? Single Infertile Female tells the story of a girl, still young and looking for love, who is hit with a medical diagnosis that threatens to destroy the future she always believed she would have. Faced with a choice between now or never, she has to decide if love and marriage should always have to come first. And if they don't can you still keep looking for them, even while actively pursuing that baby in the baby carriage?
I've followed Leah's story for awhile - I can't remember how I found her blog, and throughout time I've fallen in and out of reading it, but I am always drawn back because her writing is so raw and honest.

Her book is no different.

Don't let the title fool you - this book is about more than infertility.

It's about finding yourself and learning how you handle situations you never thought you'd experience; about trying new things and picking yourself up when they don't work out the way you planned; about relationships of all kinds - romantic, friends, and family. I started this book because of the Leah's journey with infertility, but I finished it because of her.

Granted, I related more to the infertility parts of the book than some of the relationship aspects, so I want to share a few of my favorite snippets with you. (I really had to pick and choose because I flagged so many pages I could fill a whole post with quotes!)

"The first time someone casually labels you 'infertile,' it feels as though they have just sucker punched you across the jaw." (35)

"This was how I knew that I was ready to be a mother: because the idea of not being a mother made me feel like I could not breathe." (64)

"Because that was the insanity of infertility - continuing to hope and pray and believe, even when knowing better." (305)

At times I forgot this was memoir. That sounds weird, right? But I was so engaged with this story I wanted to find out what happened next - I didn't want to put it down! I took this book with me to Vegas and in the evenings I wanted to curl up with it instead of gambling - that says something, right?

There were times near the end when some of the people (I almost wrote characters - ha!) were making me crazy - times when I wanted to scream and shake them and say "what are you thinking?" But I also know the books that pull me in that much are the ones that stay with me the longest.

I would absolutely recommend this book - whether you deal with infertility or not - I can't emphasize enough how much I respect Leah, her writing style, and of course, her story. I'll leave you with one last quote - one that resonated with me because I try to live my life this way as well.

"I did learn a long time ago that life is a hell of a lot easier if you force yourself to focus on what you do have instead of what you have lost." (328)

Have you read this book? Do you follow her blog? What are you waiting for - get on it!

4 comments:

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

This sounds like a great book! And I really like that last quote. I am sure it is one that resonates with many regardless of whether they are dealing with infertility. We all have losses we experience or experiences we fear we will never have... and you can focus on that and drive yourself crazy, or you can appreciate what you have... It's not easy, but it is definitely the better choice to focus on what you do have. I also think it is important to keep in mind that what you have and take for granted might just be what someone else is yearning for. Like my financial stability/job or your marriage with Ben, etc. When we frame out lives in terms of 'I'm lucky because' instead of 'I'm unlucky because' it really shifts your perspective.

Great review!

Nora said...

That last quote is awesome. Probably something we ALL need to focus on, yes? Thanks for sharing!

Kelly (She Wears a Red Sox Cap) said...

Sounds like an interesting book- I am going to go check out her blog now!

jogonjules said...

I am halfway through and I am enjoying it so much. Leah is a very honest writer.

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