Mar 6, 2014

Do what makes you happy

Normally I pick a word, a theme for each year. Last year it was to shimmer - and I think I rocked it. However, this year started so crappy I knew I couldn't pick one thing to focus on; a lot of this year is just going to be enduring.

Still, the planner in me feels a little lost without something to think of, or to refer to, so my "theme" for this year is quite simple: do what makes you happy.

It sounds easy enough, but I've learned that in the past few years I've had to grant myself permission to be okay with things - how I'm feeling, how I'm not feeling, what I'm doing, etc. This is the year I am not just breaking those chains, I am throwing them out and embracing happiness no matter how big or small. Care to join me?

Making me happy right now:

*Supporting Etsy shops. I've found some good ones lately and I love contributing to a handmade business, even if it's only a small purchase. (Although if anyone wants to spend some money and send me this I wouldn't object!)

*Supporting and promoting Ben. I'm so so proud of him and am plugging away trying to help them reach their goal. (If you haven't checked it out yet - go! You can contribute or share on social media - every little bit helps!)

*Yoga. I've finally been able to jump back in. For so long I couldn't do active yoga because my body was recovering from the d&c, and then I went through a stage where I was scared of my body - to be honest I don't know that I'm completely past that yet, but I'm trying to feel more connected with it. I'm trying to honor what my body has done for me (let's be honest, it's been through a lot since last July) instead of feeling betrayed by it. It's a work in progress, but yoga is most definitely helping.

*Planning small adventures. I'm headed to NYC at the end of the month and hopefully in May will be headed to another fabulous conference, and then a family vacation soon to follow. Would I rather be pregnant and uncomfortable so I couldn't go to these places? Absolutely. But I can't change that, so I'm focusing my attention on the good that I can.

*Sometimes not being normal. I was talking to a friend the other day and they asked how I was doing. I told them it felt like life was getting back to normal...until it's not. It's been almost two months, and I've come to realize sadness is just a part of me now. Our daughter died. She was alive and inside me and then she wasn't. Saying it doesn't make it easier, but I've learned I hate the word miscarriage - it makes something so horrible sound like a silly little accident. So these days I'm okay - and sometimes I'm not, and that's my new "normal" for now.

*Reading romance novels. I have probably read every Scottish one that exists (okay maybe that's a slight exaggeration, but the number is up there), but my goodness they are so easy and fun to read. I don't care that I'm not reading anything more engaging, I'm simply enjoying myself.

Do you have a theme for this year? What is making you happy right now?

8 comments:

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I think this is a great theme for the year and I really am inspired by the fact that you continue to focus on things that make you happy instead of handing yourself over to despair after the very difficult things you've been through. I guess my theme for the year is finding a way home, but that's more of a goal than a state of mind...

Things that make me happy are a well-made macaron, weekend getaways, the fact that I beat Phil 3 times at cribbage when I was home (he usually wins more games than me), warmer temperatures in the forecast, and my trip to Florida!! :)

Kelly (She Wears a Red Sox Cap) said...

I love that theme for the year :) Also, can I just say I hate that high school English teachers make us feel like we have to even say "I don't care that I'm not reading anything more engaging..." reading is supposed to be 100% fun as far as I'm concerned, and that means reading whatever we want all the time, even if what you want changes all the time.
This week what is making me happy is getting out of the house a lot- I was just not meant to be home all day!

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

I absolutely love the idea that you're letting life takes its course this year without a lot of demands on yourself, but also acknowledging the moments, places, people and things that make you happy. It's a very balanced way to approach whatever comes your way.

Know what makes me happy? Listening to this song: http://24hoursofhappy.com. Seriously, I can't get enough of it. Such a catchy little tune (and a really cool concept for a 24-hour video)!

Stephany said...

I think this is a great theme for you this year! Finding happiness in all the moments and doing things YOU want to do, not what you think you should do.

My theme for the year is commitment, because I really want to be committed to my health and finances to gain back control. I've felt a little out of control, not quite myself, for the past few years and I want this to be the year I finally figure out what healthy living means to ME (not what the healthy living bloggers are telling me to do!) and being better at managing my money.

Katelin said...

love everything about this. i actually posted about what's making me happy today, but i've been trying on things that are happy every day to help me moving forward.

xoxo

Nicole said...

That is the perfect theme for the year, I think.

Amber said...

Love your focus on doing what makes you happy. Life is too short to live in any other way!

Nora said...

Well this whole part really spoke to me, but I think you already knew that.
"Sometimes not being normal. I was talking to a friend the other day and they asked how I was doing. I told them it felt like life was getting back to normal...until it's not. It's been almost two months, and I've come to realize sadness is just a part of me now. So these days I'm okay - and sometimes I'm not, and that's my new "normal" for now."
My theme... getting through! Survival! And enjoying the glimmers of normalcy and happiness when they come to me :)

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