Oct 27, 2014

Give voice

I am thrilled to be a part of the #GivingTuesday campaign for Resolve. This is the first of a few posts I'll share - Resolve has done so much for me, including helping me give voice to my story and become an advocate for infertility.

When I think of my infertility journey, there are certain moments that come to me. Moments that happened years ago but are as vivid as if they happened just the other day.

*When I was first diagnosed with PCOS and crying on the phone with a friend on my way to work. I didn't know what the future looked like and I had no idea what this would mean for me - physically or emotionally.

*Sitting in the specialist's office hearing her recommend an IUI to us, then crying in the car on the way home telling Ben, "this isn't supposed to be how we have a baby."

*The anticipation we had when we fully embraced the IUI, the terror when we saw all the medicine, and the devastation when my nurse called and told me I was not pregnant.

*I can still feel my heart racing when after our second IUI we got a positive result, and the sinking feeling last Christmas Eve when the doctor told us our baby's heartbeat was slow and there was a chance of it stopping. I was numb when I went in for the d&c, but that night I sobbed on the phone to a friend and told her I couldn't sleep because I kept replaying that day over and over in my head.

*The moment we named our daughter.

*The moment I found Resolve as an outlet, and how Advocacy Day was scary, but one of the best things I could have ever done.

*At the end of the DC Walk of Hope, tearing up because of how uplifted I felt.

I've learned a lot along this journey. But what does infertility mean to me?

It means there's a stigma still attached to this disease, and I won't stop until that's gone. It means I've given a voice to my pain and my sorrow, but I've found an incredible community of men and women who are also navigating this same minefield. This means 1 in 8 couples are fighting infertility, yet the medical coverage for it is still almost non-existent.

Infertility has taught me I always have a little more fight in me. 
It means no one should be walking this journey alone.

How will you give voice to your story?

Find out more about #GivingTuesday and how you can be a part of this campaign.

8 comments:

Kate @ GreatestEscapist.com said...

Thanks for continuing to share your store, Becky, & for staying vocal even when it hurts. You continue to be an inspiration in every real sense of the word.

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I remember a lot of these moments, especially talking to you on Christmas Eve when you found out that you might miscarry. :( I felt so helpless at that moment and my heart just ached for you (and at many other points along this journey). I hate that you are one of the 1 in 8, but I love that you've found an organization that helps you share your story with others as I am sure you make others feel less alone as a result. I heart you!

Nora said...

I hope your bravery and strength to share your story, to be real and honest and raw even when it's an ugly truth continues to inspire others to seek options, friends like you, help, and to keep pushing. You're awesome and amazing and I'm constantly in awe of you. <3

Katelin said...

Thank you for this Becky and for always being honest and sharing your story. You truly are an inspiration and just, the loveliest.

Amy said...

Brought tears to my eyes!

Amber said...

I love that motto of sharing your story so no-one has to walk alone. While I'm sure nothing in the world makes going through a miscarriage "easier" I would assume having support and hearing from other people who have gone through it would at least make someone realize they are not alone and hopefully feel more supported. Love how much of an advocate you've become for this amazing cause!

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

So beautiful Becky. This has been quite the journey for you and Ben.

The Many Thoughts of a Reader said...

Amen!

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